Monday, April 11, 2011
Monday, February 28, 2011
Me, myself and I
In the old days when people studied traditional grammar, we could simply say, “The first person singular pronoun is ‘I’ when it’s a subject and ‘me’ when it’s an object,” but now few people know what that means. Let’s see if we can apply some common sense here. The misuse of “I” and “myself” for “me” is caused by nervousness about “me.” Educated people know that “Jim and me are goin’ down to slop the hogs,” is not elegant speech, not “correct.” It should be “Jim and I” because if I were slopping the hogs alone I would never say “Me is going. . . .” If you refer to yourself first, the same rule applies: It’s not “Me and Jim are going” but “Jim and I are going.”
So far so good. But the notion that there is something wrong with “me” leads people to overcorrect and avoid it where it is perfectly alright on the 'street'. People will say “The document had to be signed by both Susan and I” when the statement, “The document had to be signed by both Susan and me is fine in common language.”
All this confusion can easily be avoided if you just remove the second party from the sentences where you feel tempted to use “myself” as an object or feel nervous about “me.” You wouldn’t say, “The IRS sent the refund check to I,” so you shouldn’t say “The IRS sent the refund check to my wife and I” either.
Trying even harder to avoid the lowly “me,” many people will substitute “myself,” as in “the suspect uttered epithets at Officer O’Leary and myself.” Conservatives often object to this sort of use of “myself” when “me” or “I” would do. It’s usually appropriate to use “myself” when you have used “I” earlier in the same sentence: “I am not particularly fond of goat cheese myself.” “I kept half the loot for myself.” “Myself” is also fine in expressions like “young people like myself” or “a picture of my boyfriend and myself.” In informal English, beginning a sentence with “myself” to express an opinion is widely accepted: “Myself, I can’t stand dried parmesan cheese.” In all of these instances you are emphasizing your own role in the sentence, and “myself” helps do that.
On a related point, those who continue to announce “It is I” have traditional grammatical correctness on their side, but they are vastly outnumbered by those who proudly boast “it’s me!” There’s not much that can be done about this now. Similarly, if a caller asks for Susan and Susan answers “This is she,” her somewhat antiquated correctness is likely to startle the questioner into confusion.
More about 'me.'
Consider the following sentence: You and I should have lunch.
Is the correct form of this sentence You and I ... or You and me ...? This is a common source of confusion in English.
Fortunately, there's an easy way to decide whether to use I or me in such sentences. All you have to do is drop the word you then try the sentence with I and me one at a time. For example:
I should have lunch.
Me should have lunch.
Clearly the preferred form in this case is I; thus, the original sentence was correct to use you and I.
Here's another example: He'll blame you and I. Drop the word you then try the sentence with I and me one at a time, like so:
He'll blame I.
He'll blame me.
You can see that the second of these is correct. This means that the original sentence should have been: He'll blame you and me.
Easy.
On a related note, when using phrases such as you and me, you and I or them and us, it has traditionally been considered courteous to place the reference to yourself last. For example, we prefer:
He'll ask you and me later.
over:
He'll ask me and you later.
So far so good. But the notion that there is something wrong with “me” leads people to overcorrect and avoid it where it is perfectly alright on the 'street'. People will say “The document had to be signed by both Susan and I” when the statement, “The document had to be signed by both Susan and me is fine in common language.”
All this confusion can easily be avoided if you just remove the second party from the sentences where you feel tempted to use “myself” as an object or feel nervous about “me.” You wouldn’t say, “The IRS sent the refund check to I,” so you shouldn’t say “The IRS sent the refund check to my wife and I” either.
Trying even harder to avoid the lowly “me,” many people will substitute “myself,” as in “the suspect uttered epithets at Officer O’Leary and myself.” Conservatives often object to this sort of use of “myself” when “me” or “I” would do. It’s usually appropriate to use “myself” when you have used “I” earlier in the same sentence: “I am not particularly fond of goat cheese myself.” “I kept half the loot for myself.” “Myself” is also fine in expressions like “young people like myself” or “a picture of my boyfriend and myself.” In informal English, beginning a sentence with “myself” to express an opinion is widely accepted: “Myself, I can’t stand dried parmesan cheese.” In all of these instances you are emphasizing your own role in the sentence, and “myself” helps do that.
On a related point, those who continue to announce “It is I” have traditional grammatical correctness on their side, but they are vastly outnumbered by those who proudly boast “it’s me!” There’s not much that can be done about this now. Similarly, if a caller asks for Susan and Susan answers “This is she,” her somewhat antiquated correctness is likely to startle the questioner into confusion.
More about 'me.'
Consider the following sentence: You and I should have lunch.
Is the correct form of this sentence You and I ... or You and me ...? This is a common source of confusion in English.
Fortunately, there's an easy way to decide whether to use I or me in such sentences. All you have to do is drop the word you then try the sentence with I and me one at a time. For example:
I should have lunch.
Me should have lunch.
Clearly the preferred form in this case is I; thus, the original sentence was correct to use you and I.
Here's another example: He'll blame you and I. Drop the word you then try the sentence with I and me one at a time, like so:
He'll blame I.
He'll blame me.
You can see that the second of these is correct. This means that the original sentence should have been: He'll blame you and me.
Easy.
On a related note, when using phrases such as you and me, you and I or them and us, it has traditionally been considered courteous to place the reference to yourself last. For example, we prefer:
He'll ask you and me later.
over:
He'll ask me and you later.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
caddy corner
caddy corner - 1 definition - diagonally opposite from the point where you are now, as if standing on one corner in a square.
Monday, December 21, 2009
To, Too, and Two:
1.Two = 2;
2.To = at, toward; to you, to the tree, to do something;
3.Too = also, and, more; too much, include him too;
4.She wants to (play) too.
5.He brought two horses to the stable too.
2.To = at, toward; to you, to the tree, to do something;
3.Too = also, and, more; too much, include him too;
4.She wants to (play) too.
5.He brought two horses to the stable too.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Thursday, December 4, 2008
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